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Even the tools are not tools. I’ll explain:
They act like jerks, they behave in a standoffish manner, they try to ignore people as though these people are beneath them, and they exude other similar pompous behavior.
This is obviously the behavior of an insecure person. If you are comfortable with yourself, you don’t need to mistreat someone to give yourself status. Isn’t funny to realize that in many cases overindulgence in arrogance is actually driven from insecurity?
It will drive you to try and impress people all the time.
You are not there to prove anything. You can enjoy someone else’s words because you are actually listening to that person speak, and not worrying about what you should say to garner attention back to yourself every step of the way.
It will drive you to impress people by whom you have sitting next to you.
It takes time to get there. It helps if you realize what it is you should be focusing on.
It is not an easily achieved feat, but it is what your master goal should be.
It’s not about the words. It’s ABOUT A MENTALITY.
IT IS ABOUT THE FREEDOM TO EXIST.
I’ll be honest with you: I have many people giving dating advice and many of them are not completely comfortable in their own skin either.
His starvation for other people’s attention becomes laughably obvious and after a while, it becomes annoying.
I constantly run into such guys who are trying to be alpha: Their behaviors manifest themselves in two ways,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych].
Well,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], what the heck does that mean?
Not being comfortable with who you are manifests itself in so many ways.
This is not a goal that is achieved over night. It takes time and effort and you must work towards it. I have met and winged with some of the best of the best as far as the pick-up game is concerned, and I can tell you that even some of these guys haven’t achieved this.
One of the things I teach to guys is the art of story telling. Now, two years ago, I may have thought that this is a great tool to have.
Similarly, becoming comfortable and being able to exist and walk through life in a manner where you feel good about yourself, and in a manner where you feel the freedom to exist and express yourself is not a tool.
IT IS ABOUT THE FREEDOM TO EXPRESS YOURSELF WITHOUT EXCUSES.
I also recall not completely understanding what he was discussing the first time I heard this interview. He is very correct, however. It is easy to put on a fancy show and try to impress people, but to honestly express yourself is very difficult.
Once again, if someone is socially awkward then it is logical that he would seek to remedy that situation. However, to crawl out of the hole of social ineptness onto the plateau of a socially savvy person is not a tool or a technique. It is a person making fundamental changes in himself.
Lacking these internal belief structures, a person will often resort to looking at things through a different lens. He looks at everything through the frame of techniques and tactics, henceforth completely missing the point regarding the self-belief.
To genuinely feel and exude that is difficult,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych].
It ends when you realize that probably the biggest reason you are at this cross road is because you are not comfortable with who you are.
It is forcing you to make a fundamental change in yourself. Once you learn how to tell a proper story and be interesting, you will have made a permanent change.
If you are going to set objectives in this game, make sure at the very top is the freedom to exist.
Firstly, let’s understand this: You have a lot of guys who are trying to prove that they are alpha. Well,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], if you are “Trying” to be it, then you really are not alpha.
I am not a guru and I am not some super monk sitting on top of the mountain being at one with the Universe. We are all at different levels of comfort. We are at different stages in our journey,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych].
It is about a strong enough self-image where you don’t feel like you must carry your invisible bag of tools at all times or you are doomed.
I recently heard an incredibly well known “Pick up Artist” label being direct as a “Frame Control” Trick. This indicates that to this person,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], everything is still a technique, not an organic and natural process.
However, to be able to just be present and a relaxed cool individual is to be able to free yourself of constantly reaching inside your bag of tools.
Again: This article is not about the words that you say when you approach a woman.
Some of you have goals and objectives while learning this “Game.” Others just take it one day at a time.
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It will drive you women away from you,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych].
You are no longer reaching in your bag silently thinking to yourself, “Aha, I will pull out my tool of “Story telling” at this point in the pickup. It will be the equivalent of photon torpedoes and will weaken her deflector shields.”
It’s also not about having cocky/funny as a tool.
This article will seem like just good old plain common sense. Yet, most people in business of giving advice in dating and seduction are not really addressing it and I know it is a problem for most men.
To me, being able to express yourself without excuses is the ultimate state of alphaness.
Bruce said, “It is easy to for me to put on a show and be flooded with a cocky feeling, and then feel pretty cool, or do some phony things and be blinded by it, or show you some fancy movement………. but to express oneself honestly, not lying to oneself, to express myself honestly…..That, my friend, is very hard to do.”
It is about what Seth Parker talked about in his article “Confident Rapport.”
You go in with the mentality that “I do NOT need to resort to trickery and tactics” in order to get a woman.
Whether you consider yourself a novice in meeting women or somewhat experienced, you should always keep this ideal in mind.
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Yet,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], what do you usually find in guys who are “Trying” to be alpha?
This also is deeply rooted in insecurity.
The chief goal of any self-help environment ought to be trying to get you to feel comfortable in your own skin and be at peace with yourself.
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Sounds simple, doesn’t it? And yet, it is so difficult.
I recall, many years ago, watching “The Lost Interview” with Bruce Lee where he talked about expressing oneself and the difficulty in doing so.
It will drive you to many times behave like a pompous jackass.
It is not a routine!
When is it going to end?
Instead, guys are chasing their own tails trying to learn more openers, more cute lines, more tricky pickup lines, more secret tactics, more, more, more.
It comes from the power of belief and it comes from a deeper place.
The direct style is about a state of self-belief not often found in many guys who consider themselves “Pick Up Artists” regardless of how good they are.
IT IS ABOUT THE FREEDOM TO BE.
It is not a tactic!
It takes a bit of an ego check to admit this, but admitting is the first step to progress.
If he is not interjecting to get his point in, he is drawing attention to himself through wisecracks or other juvenile behavior.
However, I want to make sure that people are focusing on the right issues and that this focus will help them achieve their desired states.
It is a paradigm shift in your thinking, beliefs, ideals, and behavior!!
However, having the ability to tell stories in an interesting and captivating manner is not a tool.
You want to be confident and playful? Fine! Do so because you are a person who enjoys having a good time and one who enjoys teasing people. Don’t do it because it is a tool you pull out of your hidden bag.
It’s about a mentality to be able express oneself without pretense. It does not really matter what you open the conversation with.
A lot of guys will argue about what to say upon first meeting girl and what the tactic or strategy should be.
They try to dominate every conversation. They must at all times be the center of attention.
This second category is really easy to notice. You can have a group of 5 guys talking and you’ll see one guy constantly cutting people off to interject his point of view and constantly striving to get attention.
I am not saying that “Tools” are bad in general. There are some tools that are useful at some point.
I know it is a problem because I teach workshop/seminars a couple of times a month and I see it first hand and this is something that can save you a lot of time and wasted energy.
You just become a more interesting person who enjoys sharing a good story or two because you have internalized good story telling and now it has become second nature.
Thus, to be genuine and comfortable,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], you do not need to be a jerk, and nor do you need to be the center of attention every single minute. You can be in your space and if someone else has the floor, you can listen comfortably because you are secure in who you are.
Thus, making “becoming comfortable with who you are,” is one of the top priorities.
It will drive you to constantly try and bring attention to yourself.
While it is not the only priority, it should be one of the top messages emphasized by gurus giving dating advice.
It means if you are going to set up goals for yourself, your eventual goal is to believe so strongly in yourself that you can walk up to anyone and be comfortable.
No!
It will drive you to impress by telling people what kind of a cool car you have, what celeb you met, or how much money you just made.
People are not comfortable with themselves and they build layers to mask that discomfort. Instead of helping peel off the layers of façade, most people in the dating-industry seem to advise people to hide under more layers.
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Cameron Teone
To truly not give a damn and have such a strong self-image to approach anyone is not a trick. It is not a tactic.
It’s about a STATE OF MIND,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych]. It is about a PARADIGM SHIFT.
It will drive you to be socially frightened.
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After further recollection, I've come to realize that many people I know have complained of their partners' or ex-partners' strange sexual fetishes. From nipple-biting to asparagus-feathering to paddle-slapping, human beings can be dirty,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], raw creatures. If it's not you,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], it's your neighbor. And if it's not your neighbor, it's your friend...usually the guy with the moose knuckle. **
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But in Western culture,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], babies spend much of their time in the stroller,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], car seat, or crib...removed from the touch to which they grow accustomed in the womb. It only gets worse as we get older. When's the last time you received a loving touch whether from a spouse, child,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], pooch, or friend?
Even when clothed in luxurious garments and the finest jewels, a touch-deprived soul thirsts as desperately for nourishment as a starving man caked in squalor. As we're all learning oh so clearly, desperate times call for desperate measures.
"I loved your book*," my friend told me as we walked the streets of NY before my launch party last week.
I'd never heard such a thing. That's almost as bad as hearing another say, "I hate Bob Marley" or... "Actually I'm a man."
Why do so many resort to such odd behavior? Let's face it. We have a weird relationship with touch that begins from the time we are born. As babies in the womb,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], we are surrounded by the warm amniotic fluid, the soothing beat of the heart, the loving vibrations of the mother's energy. In some indigenous cultures,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], upon entering the world, a baby remains in skin-to-skin contact with the mother for up to 90% of the time during the first months of life. ***
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It turns out that she was scarred by an ex-boyfriend who could not come to climax during s*x unless she continuously high-fived him throughout,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych].
I was stoked and said,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], "Awesome! High five?!" while holding out my hand.
After a cool down period, I asked,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], "Why no high fives?"
*My book is now available for your reading "pleasure,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych]."
How could you blame her?
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Qianjiang management office director Tang Yuli said, in the traditional garden show Park "Hangzhou Park" to the "West Lake world view" for the king, taking West Lake Shuangjue "dream of the tiger spring",[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], "Longjing tea" as the background, through representative buildings, plants, water,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], rockery, landscape wall element combined,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], visitors to the show Hangzhou West Lake four seasons beauty add radiance and beauty to each other, and the natural and cultural landscape features of the landscape.
May 8th,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], sponsored by the Ministry of housing and urban rural development of the seventh China (Ji'nan) International Garden and flower expo concluded successfully. By the Hangzhou West Lake scenic area (Hangzhou City Garden Cultural Relics Bureau) on behalf of the Hangzhou municipal Exhibition "Hangzhou garden" won the Expo's highest award -- Outdoor Garden Integrated award,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], also won a design award, award, plant configuration architecture award, construction excellence awards.
to "Hangzhou garden" is it right? As well as to the real West Lake without money?
yesterday morning, good news came --
to Ji'nan made "Hangzhou garden" this task is received in October 2008, "our management office sent the strongest expert, make plans,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], in 2009 February started construction in October last year,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], opening to the outside world, try water, have a look how tourists reaction, it seems, such as tide. Hangzhou landscape garden in Shandong that the northern provinces, is the one and only exquisite."
"the Fair Park in Ji'nan's Changqing District,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], is a high teach science park where the District, set aside a piece of land as the 'garden', with an area of 5000 acres, all over the city to Ji'nan, a total of the 108 garden, and our 'Hangzhou Park',[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], also in inside, the area is more than 2000 square meters."
"the Ji'nan Expo Garden, to receive 60 yuan tickets, of course,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], go shopping 108 garden is not another to spend money. We 'Hangzhou Park' is out of Ji'nan, Hangzhou, Hangzhou to manufacture, in participating in national each big brother city won the highest award,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], which is equivalent to Hangzhou to spend money in the Qilu earth to build a permanent implantable advertising, put a tiny little West Lake in Ji'nan. Would like to take the opportunity to tell visitors: if you want to come to Hangzhou around the real West Lake, this piece of a landscape of lakes and mountains scenery of the free and open."
Tang Yuli, on Monday is the beginning of May 10th, "Hangzhou garden" was formally transferred to the Ji'nan territorial management,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], maintenance and follow-up will be borne by the local. Reporter Ma Jianhui correspondent Sun Lei
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so the reporter telephone interview to staff the Personnel Bureau of Wenzhou city schools, the staff said to have the Spring Festival will be the next round of training, the cost is not finalized, the government's subsidies, specific to the control file.
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I put my frozen into a block of ice
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good approaching winter temperatures
so we have an equal position
free exchange of ideas
I thought the anchor in this winter
from a height of three thousand feet
gasification into a brisk wind
mercilessly swept from Saibei Jiangnan
witness a fragile life,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych].
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but winter does not want to be a bully
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are shocking than any one season
it is the sun warms the winter's heart
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Hiroshima is a Japanese name, October Hiroshima is particularly beautiful, Seto inland sea has a fat delicious fresh, succulent oysters. Put it on the fire grilled, etc. the mouth opening insertion tool can be raised to open, add the lemon juice, spoon, soup with juice together into the mouth, fresh flavor. Oysters can have all the year round, is the most beautiful autumn oysters, and all the best Japanese oyster in Hiroshima.
alone travel is homely food for me, this time to the outskirts of Hiroshima is the name - Palace island. The ferry, here to give me the first impression is static, it is like a piece of pure land in the metropolis, the autumn sun has dried roadside subtilis, few deer leisurely paced, head to the visitors from time to time, to get a little food. There be well-known,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], far and near - a red bird in the major suit building,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], how many years to be beaten by wind and waves still stands near the shore of the sea, the day when the tide, people can walk to the archway in front, can see the traces left arch foundation and pillar; when the night comes, the sea not arch foundation,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], arch it stands in the Seto inland sea in the vast expanse of water. Every spring, summer will have various memorial activities,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], near the Itsukushima shrine is the main activity place.
saw torii shrine archway through,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], come into view is a piece of red, yellow and red as the sunset. Here is the palace on the island of Hongye Valley, cloud has spread from the coast to the top of the hill, at first glance,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], like "Yan red as fire, smoke Xuan Bi color". Enters the autumn, the leaves have the summer green into a dark green, dark green, orange yellow into wheat by red,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], red sauce, in a burst of autumn wind blowing, graceful stretch leaf, slowly falling from a tree at the foot of the tourists. Pick up a piece of yellow or red maple leaves in the book, it will be forever memories, it'll remind palace Island red,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], and the red all over the mountains and plains, heard in October leaves rustling autumn wind. The mountain of Miyashima is not high, but fall in sunshine will become very short,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], now is already in the afternoon, I had no choice but to sit cable car up the mountain, if it is sunny morning mountain top, along the way can be shuttled between the taste of maple, maple leaf light irradiation of sunshine through the body feeling, and the valley inside the cool air.
after climbing to the top of that house around the island, with the size of around 10 Island,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], the island is a wild profusion of vegetation lush foliage, very small mostly uninhabited island. The mountain of deer in the "Xi light early thorough,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], climbing season autumn scenery is Tsinghua", who will miss this colorful autumn. Enjoy the scenery between feel thirsty, buy a can of cola, gulped down half tank, sweeping away the autumn dryness. At this time a large male deer came, gradually close to me, look in the eyes with gentle and hope, I think it also want to drink cola? Don't feel the remaining half can of cola to send, it slowly poured out, if it with the tongue licking the color of the tank mouth, sucking out of juice,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], "Da, Da" sound, like in the schematic never waste a drop of coke to let it flow to the ground. Sweet voice attracted tourists in an uproar, people rushed to beat相关的主题文章:
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What planet are you on?
Finally,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], there is one overlying theme that hangs over all of us in traditional relationships. One of us is male and the other is female. Period. Although we are not from different planets as you may have heard, society expects different things from us and we therefore have different goals and expectations about relationships and our roles in them.
What family tree did you fall from?
First is that neither one of you grew up in the same family. Maybe your family was the kind of family that was loud and outgoing, always doing things together, and constantly moving, whereas your partner came from a family where spending time together meant that they were in the same room together listening to the same clock ticking in the corner. It may not have been quite that extreme,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], but you get the point.
Emotion types
There are two types of emotions. Primary and secondary. Secondary emotions are emotions that come after the main emotion occurs. In essence, it is a reaction to the reaction.
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When we fight, something interesting happens in our bodies. For most people,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], fighting isn’t just an exchange of words. It is an emotional event that happens and is felt throughout our bodies.
How deep is the carpet you sweep under?
These couples do have conflicts, but they keep it quiet. From the neighbors, from the family, and even from themselves. When a conflict arises, these people will quickly and effectively avoid the conflict and will work around it. When they come into therapy, generally these people will talk about conflicts that were never resolved 10 years ago that their partner didn’t even know was a problem.
Let’s clarify what was said previously. Everyone fights, but you may not actually know it. Even if you are in the relationship. There are basically 2 types of fighters; the Screamers and the Sweepers.
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Here is the problem. There really are 3 things working against you in this relationship.
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1) Check Out Time
2) Kitchen Sinking
3) Sucker Punch
4) Setting the Rules
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Chemical Confusion
Part of the problem when we fight is that too often we are dealing with the secondary emotions. We have felt something strongly like rejection or betrayal, and then our bodies automatically go into defensive mode. Our brains release chemicals that put us on alert and do not allow proper functioning of brain processing.
Whether you have been married 20 years or 20 minutes, learning to fight well can be the difference between being one of the most rewarding experiences of marriage and the most challenging.
Why do we loose control?
Knowing that there are such strong, lifelong habits and traits that we are dealing with, it should be
Call it a fight, call it a discussion, call it whatever you want. But let’s be honest. The truth is that in every marriage there is fighting. No matter what you think,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], there is no such thing as the Cleavers or the Cosbys. That being said, if it happens in every marriage, why is it that there are some couples who seem to enter and exit the ring gracefully while others seem like there is never a break between rounds? The reason is that some people have learned the secrets behind fighting well and others are just swinging away hoping to connect.
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Are you a fruit?
Secondly, no two people in the world have had exactly the same experiences and thoughts as another person. Our experiences tend to form who we are and how we see life. Therefore, no two people in or out of a relationship will ever see their relationship exactly the same. It is like trying to compare apples to oranges.
Why do so many couples fight?
This is just not natural!
Why is it that fighting well is so difficult,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych]? Even the most practiced couple makes mistakes at times and seems to go backwards. What needs to be understood is that it is not natural to have the kind of conversations that will make marriages work. Our natural reaction is to fight or run,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych].
So what we are doing is trying go against what our animal instincts are telling us to do. What needs to happen is that we need to transcend that instinct and move to a higher level and do things that feel difficult and unnatural. It’s hard, but it can be done using proven tools.
What we need to realize is that people who work off of secondary emotions do not actually see reality because their brains cannot function properly with the chemicals that are being produced. Our natural response is to retaliate without thought. How can you fight effectively when your brain is not functioning? You can’t! That is why you need to be able to see clearly enough to fight.
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Entering into a relationship too quickly after a break up can end up hurting both of the new partners. If you think that you may be on the rebound, you should take a look at what you think of during an average day. If you are still dwelling on the previous relationship and talking about it to friends instead of focusing on your new relationship, this could be a warning sign. Experiencing feelings of anger and hurt after a break up is normal, but if you are still focusing on it when you are alone,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], you may be on the rebound.
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What should you do if someone like this wants to get together with you? You would be wise to pass on it because you are going to get wrapped up in their problems. Although if you dated but did not take it serious, you may be ok. Just be in control of your own life.
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One of the worst regrets to live with is wondering whether the time was really right to end a relationship. If you are considering getting back together with someone you cared about, you might want to take a minute to read about some important strategies for getting back together with an ex that can help to put things back on track.
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A rebound relationship is basically one that somebody gets into to fill that void after having split with another person. They can not be by themselves for a length of time because maybe they lack self esteem or any other reasons,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych]. They may find that they are jumping from one relationship to another never being able to make a commitment.
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